Where will you go and what will you do with your new year?

Broadway and Murray Street, New York City - April 2011

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude."
~ Maya Angelou

I am of the belief that each person is in control of his or her own actions and by extension, his or her own future. If you are unhappy with the location of the most recently placed pin on your map, it's time to do something. Time, which is defined this weekend by the flipping not just of the page, but of the entire calendar! It's out of there! Put up a new one! We're on the brink of a new year and another chance to change our lives and set off in a fresh, new direction! And the best part is... we get to choose which direction that is!

Yes, I am a flag-waving, hand-clapping, sole-stomping fan of New Year's resolutions! I love the buildup and mental preparation involved with deciding which things I intend to realign in the new year. I don't commit to anything groundbreaking, but I do make them relevant and attainable and enjoyable. Why tell myself to do something I don't enjoy? I know that I genuinely revel in nourishing my love affair with words by tending to this blog, so I strive to write more often. I know I feel fabulous when I eat fresh produce and that I am at my strongest physically and mentally when I'm running so I will recommit to this, now that the time sucking (albeit enjoyable) Christmas preparations are no longer dominating my lunch hour.

Now I don't beat myself up over the fact that I typically resolve to change things in my life that "should" be natural or that I "should" already be doing (such as spending more quality time with my kids and remaining calm when things don't work out the way I'd expected) nor do I get twisted up over writing down some of the same intentions as I did last year or the year before that (consume more nutrient rich foods more often)! I simply enjoy the process of polishing off my moxie and allowing it to forge ahead into a fresh new year and see what happens while occassionaly consulting my list of New Year's resolutions!

Besides, when it comes to changing habits and swapping out the details in your life with something more beneficial, I believe that you haven't given up until you've stopped trying. Make a list of things you WILL do... as opposed to things you want to do (it's not difficult to WANT something, after all! and doesn't really effect change!). Then set out to make the daily changes as if you're already doing it. (rather than "I want to eat better" or "I will try to eat better", state it as: "I eat well every day." and then you will be more likely to ensure this statement is true!

Happy New Year to whoever may be reading this! However you ring in the new year, be sure to do it with someone you care about (if you can't be together, pick up the phone and call!) and have fun!!

View from CN Tower

"You see, boys, the world looks much different from up here."

Robin Williams as John Keating in Dead Poet's Society

My kids would talk about wanting to go up in the CN Tower on occasion, even going as far as to state they would stand on its glass floor, but I knew it was just aimless proclamation. We had once attempted to visit the Skylon Tower (and venture higher than its midway game level!) but my oldest held back and admitted that he was too nervous to go to the top, so we both knew that the CN Tower was out of the question. Talk about being aware of your limitations!

It was in May of 2009 that we finally let one of those famous yellow pods whisk us up the 775 feet to the top of the Skylon. The experience of looking down at Niagara Falls and other familiar venues in this illustrious city proved to incite excitement, not trepidation, so I knew they'd be fine going even higher up.

So three months later, on a molten August afternoon, we ascended another 360 feet into Ontario's sky to drink in the sweeping view of Toronto. It proved to be a wonderful experience, right from the beginning. 2009 was the first year that the GO Train provided weekend service from Niagara Falls to Toronto so, as an alternative to driving to a city which was, at that time, relatively unfamiliar to me, we parked at the St. Catharines Via Station and I got to sit back and relax the whole way!

The lineup to secure a spot in one of this tower's pods felt as long as its ascension. I was slightly annoyed at myself for failing to anticipate this... with minimal diversion paraphernalia, it proved to be the only taxing portion of the whole trip. I don't remember exactly how taxing... I just recall that it was a long time for little people to stand in one spot and wait their turn!

But I do remember the rush of wonder that befell their faces upon looking through one of those panes of glass. I was mesmerized myself, only having been up there once before when I was a teenager, so I can't imagine what it must have been like for children whose highest views were typically realised by climbing the steps of a playground slide! We sat at this spot for a long time, our eyes skipping along the tops of office buildings and following insect-like vehicles along ruler-like streets, and even bearing witness to an aerial proposal!

When we followed the steps up to the next level, however, the flame was abruptly extinguished as my oldest caught a glimpse of the glass floor. It was as if reality hit him and he became blazingly aware of how high we were actually standing! My youngest thought it was cool, and when he realised how nervous his brother was, it became even cooler! He sprawled out and looked up at us, which even made my legs a little jittery. The location of my feet in this picture illustrates how much of the the glass I allowed my feet to cover... I wasn't too comfortable with the imagery myself. But my oldest was done. It was suddenly time to go! I guess sometimes the excursion out of our comfort zone is best experienced through a window that is in a position that is familiar to our eyes!